I already posted a bit on what happened this weekend but I’ve been thinking more about this idea of “the man” and how it relates to the gay marriage debate.

Personally, I 100% support that everyone should have equal rights. But watching the nastiness unfold in this debate everywhere, and on BOTH sides, has been troublesome.

It seems silly to me that the gay rights movement would need to seek validation from a society that is morally repugnant, for a right that shouldn’t be dictated by the government to begin with.

If a society is inherently unfair, why fight the system from within? Why not just abandon the system? Create our own?

It reminds me a bit of Sojourner Truth – who when faced with fight for African-American rights reminded everyone that it should not be strange to ALSO fight for Women’s rights at the same time. Why is equal rights for EVERYONE still such a radical concept? Even today?

And then I come to this idea of marriage.

Most married people I know are miserable. It sometimes looks and feels like a prison, especially to people who are in more abusive relationships. Especially for those whose religion and community make it nearly impossible for them to escape and to get divorced without repercussion.

Love is love.

With or without marriage.

Marriage is a symbol of commitment for life. Which is hard – and rare. Most people can’t do that, yet it has turned into a kind of end-game for relationships. Like marriage is the ultimate goal. The happily ever after.

And that’s just wrong. Marriage is just a contract, the relationship still requires work and maintenance.

And I don’t think that marriage is for everyone – and that is perfectly alright. Kudos for you if you love your partner, if you love being married. But that’s just one outcome of love. Some people just cannot handle monogamy, it’s why adultery is as old as the word marriage. Yet having multiple loves in one life and never getting married has been attached with such a degrading social stigma that people have a problem viewing it as anything other than “wrong.”

Why?

They don’t even know.

So I propose a solution: A Free Love Revolution.

Let’s break free from this construct of “marriage” and let’s change a society whose core is still solidified around archaic ideas of freedom, equality, and love.

I know it’s idealist and technically impossible.

But I can’t help but imagine how different everything would be if we could stop pretending to be things that we are simply not. If we accepted our true natures as they are, if we acknowledged that biologically we are all the same. And that historically we love who we love.

And that no government should ever be able to dictate that.

Viva la revolucion de amor!